Tuesday, December 9, 2014


The Gift of Love & Sex

By Ina Laughing Winds M.A., M.F.C.C.

He wanted to give his wife, a special gift for the holidays.  He knew she had a lot of clothes.  She loved jewelry but another expensive trinket lying on her dresser would not say what he wanted to tell to her.  They had been together many years but it wouldn't matter if it had only been a few months.  He felt something inside that made him really think, "What could I give her, to let her know, how much I appreciate her, love her.  How much I enjoy sex with her?"
She was out shopping for the Holidays.  She could get her husband the same old things; shirts, sweaters, magazine subscription but these all seemed empty to her.  She was feeling more loved and appreciated then ever before in her life. What did he need that he did not already have? Their sex life was good. But what does a man love more then good hot sex? Ah, a little voice woke up inside her, a gift of sex, passion and pushing the edge sounded just right.
He hated to shop. He racked his brain for weeks. Then he remembered her saying that she loved surprises especially when he planned the whole thing. She had shared a fantasy with him but felt he would be to shy to actually do it. Did he dare, choreograph the fantasy and surprise her with it as his gift to her.  He would be taking a big chance. What if she did not like it? What if she laughed at him? He did not want to be rejected.
The holidays were coming up fast. They usually spent the main day with family so together without knowing what the other was planning they agreed to take a day and night to drive out of town and spend it in a nice mountain cottage, with fire place and little kitchen.
He actually went out and bought himself some sexy bedroom attire. He discovered, at this time of year, there was lots of silky robes, see through boxer shorts and g-strings, things that he did not normally wear.  She found herself shopping not for holiday gifts but for garter belts, and black hose, sexy feathery lingerie, things that really pushed her button to even try on. But she wanted to Wow her husband, give him the sexiest hottest gift of lovemaking she could.
He was bringing a CD player and Joe Cocker. He planned to strip for her, but with a twist. He had hired a male stripper to come to their cottage and together they would tease her and strip for her.  Then he would fuck her brains out when the stripper left. Her fantasy fulfilled.
She knew he loved to see her self-pleasure but she wanted to do it dancing. She was nervous about the dancing. She felt awkward. She decided to hire a female striper to help her. She did not tell the stripper what she intended to do.   But she did arrange for the stripper to leave when she gave her the signal.

What a surprise when both strippers showed up at the same time. The evening went better then they could have ever planned. This couple still talk about the holiday when they put their fears aside and gave the gift of sex and love. 

Sunday, September 22, 2013


The freedom we have in the United States is punctuated by the freedom to express ourselves sexually.  How we dress to allure the one we are interested in, and entice a flirtatious moment, is a precious freedom only a few countries in the world enjoys.
How will you celebrate your freedoms?
Gratitude is a type of prayer that brings a sense of serenity to the mind, peace and quiet to the soul. Can you be grateful, consciously, for your Freedoms?
Think of your freedom of religion, speech and the press? You may need to look beyond your cities newspapers to get an opposing viewpoint but, if you look, the written word is there and you can educate yourself.  You can choose your political stance without being killed for your convictions.
You can attend any church or synagogue; sit in nature or do a Native American all night ceremony in a teepee. You can choose to participate or not in the spiritual beliefs of your choice. Not so in other countries.
Your freedom to educate yourself sexually is a precious gift. Are you using this gift?  Have you learned something new in the past year or two or five?  Sexual freedom means you can educate yourself and go beyond what your parents understood. You can enjoy educational dvd’s, steamy heart-throb stories, sensual erotica or blatantly raunchy porn. Do you prefer books, DVD’s or real life experiences?  The choice is yours.
You have freedom to dress in whatever type of clothing you choose from social conditioned poor, middle class or wealthy. You can dress outrageous to simple, sexy and sensual to female frumpy or male couch potato sweats. How do you choose to present yourself to your world? What are you saying about yourself through your attire? You do not have to care, fit in, or try to belong to a social norm.  It is important that you express your unique individuality in an authentic way.
How will you acknowledge the freedoms that the United States affords you?  Can you give yourself permission to learn something new in the field of intimacy and sexuality?  Can you dress sexy outside “your norm” in the privacy of your home?
Opening a conversation on the topic of sexuality and intimacy is one of the most challenging areas most people face.   As a parent it is very important to have an age appropriate talk with your children;’ if they are 5 asking where babies come from or 15 asking for help not to have a baby. Talking with your spouse or lover can be more challenging then talking about “It” with your friends.
You have the freedom to have the best sex life imaginable on the face of this planet. There are a few other “free” countries that would allow this.  This is your country and your life and your desires and passions. There is so much to learn about sexuality that no one ever taught you.  How about now?  Would you like to discover all the possibilities of sacred intimacy and gain the pleasure and knowledge that heals the soul, rejuvenates your spirit and keeps you young at heart?

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Join me on my spiritual sexuality journey of blogging.  This is a new adventure for me and I welcome your input.
 The time is now for all of us to awaken to our full potential as sacred sexual human beings.  Our sexuality is an expression of Creation at its most  powerful display of unity, autonomy and individuality.  Our orgasms, be they through self pleasuring or with a partner, can be a moment of actualization and manifestation. All you need to do is state an affirmation or prayer as the waves of pleasure and delight course through your body.    Discover Sexual Magick. It is spelled to indicate  "real magick "not stage magic.   Learn how to access it and make your life better.

My first blogging is short and sweet.